What is triangulation with a narcissist?
Triangulationin the context of narcissistic abuse is the act of bringing another person or a group of people into the dynamic of a relationship or interaction to belittle the victim and make the victim “vie” for the attention of the narcissist.
How do you deal with borderline triangulation?
Coping With Triangulation
- Don’t respond quickly to surprising news.
- Take a step back and consider the facts.
- Try your best not to lose your temper or lose control of your feelings.
- Don’t make promises, commitments, or contracts that’ll only hurt your relationship with people whom you trust and love.
What does it mean when someone Triangulates you?
Triangulation is a manipulation tactic where one person will not communicate directly with another person, instead using a third person to relay communication to the second, thus forming a triangle.
How do you get out of triangulation?
Set some ground rules, including:
- The feedback should avoid evaluative statements and focus on descriptions of the other person’s behavior.
- Each person should be curious as to why the other sees things the way they do.
- The two people involved should talk to each other and not to the facilitator.
How do you verbally disarm a narcissist?
Here are the steps you should take:
- Don’t argue about ‘right’ and ‘wrong’
- Instead, try to empathise with their feelings.
- Use ‘we’ language.
- Don’t expect an apology.
- Ask about a topic that interests them.
- Don’t take the bait yourself.
- Remember to put yourself first.
Why do narcissists use mirroring?
People with NPD engage in narcissistic mirroring for three primary reasons: They lack a stable identity and are trying on yours. They are working to win you over, reflecting back what they think you want to see. They are faking intimacy, because they lack the skills and desire for genuine connection.
What kind of person attracts narcissists?
Narcissists are attracted to strong, powerful women. For one, a strong woman can take care of him. Because despite macho appearances and charismatic first impressions, a narcissist needs a lot of care! Two, narcissists take special pleasure in destroying a strong woman.